Cheryl_OH

Jun 21 · Posted

Okay so I have an OB appointment coming up and I am genuinely stressed about walking in there and blanking on everything. 50, Ohio, periods have gone absolutely feral the past eight months and the fatigue is the part that's hardest to explain. Like I can describe the bleeding fine. But the tired? It's not regular tired. It's a specific kind of flat where I'm sitting at my desk at 2pm and I genuinely cannot tell if I'm sad or just depleted. I want to be able to tell her that clearly instead of just going "I'm really tired" and having her nod and move on. So I started keeping a little note on my phone. Not fancy. Just end of day, one line: how bad the bleeding was, what I ate because on heavy days I've basically been living on scrambled eggs and whatever requires zero effort, and then a number for how functional I actually felt. Like did I cancel something? Did I sit in my car before going inside? That kind of thing. What I'm wondering is: what did you track before YOUR appointment that actually helped the conversation go somewhere? Did you bring printed notes or just talk from your phone? Did your doctor actually engage with the fatigue piece or did it get brushed past? I feel like I need a strategy here and not just vibes. Any of this land with anyone? 😩

Jun 18 · Posted

50 and finally made an appointment for next week. Okay so I need help knowing what to actually BRING. Like what did you track before you went in? I've been keeping rough notes on my phone but it's mostly just... "bad day, couldn't function" which feels embarrassing to hand a doctor. The fatigue piece is what I really want to talk about because the bleeding I can describe but the exhaustion is harder to explain. Some days I genuinely cannot make dinner. Like I stood in my kitchen last Tuesday holding a can of chickpeas just staring at it. That was dinner. Chickpeas out of the can. My husband said nothing and I loved him for it. Did any of you write down how the tiredness was affecting your actual daily life? Work stuff, driving, that kind of thing? I feel like if I just say "I'm tired" she's going to tell me to sleep more and send me home. I want to come in with something real. Something she can't just wave off. Any format you used that actually helped would mean a lot right now. 🙏

Jun 14 · Posted

Okay so I have an appointment coming up and I'm genuinely stressed about going in there and blanking on everything. Like I KNOW it's been bad but when someone asks me to describe it I just say "really tired" and "kind of a lot" and then leave feeling like I said nothing useful. For anyone who's prepped for this kind of appointment before... what did you actually write down? I've started a little fatigue log, just jotting when I hit a wall during the day, but I don't know if that's even the kind of thing they want to hear. Or do I need numbers? Pad counts? Both? Also on the dinner front I have fully given up on cooking anything real on bad days. Scrambled eggs and whatever's in the freezer. If anyone has iron-rich ideas that don't require me to stand at a stove for forty minutes when I can barely stand period, I will take them. 😩 Just want to walk in there with something concrete for once instead of shrugging.

Jun 8 · Replied

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Just popping back to say thank you, especially A.A.. I read all of these with a cup of tea and had a little cry, in a good way. This community is such a relief sometimes.

Jun 8 · Posted

Appointment coming up and I feel weirdly underprepared. I'm 50, periods are all over the place, and the fatigue has gotten bad enough that I mentioned it to my husband and he looked genuinely concerned, which is how I know it's not just me being dramatic. What did you all actually track before your appointments? I've been keeping a rough fatigue diary, mostly just a number out of ten at the end of the day, but I don't know if that's the kind of thing a doctor finds useful or if I should be tracking something more specific. Like does the time of day matter? Does it correlate with my cycle? I've started wondering but I haven't been consistent enough to see a pattern yet. On heavy days I basically live on scrambled eggs or whatever soup is already in the fridge. Not glamorous but it's what gets done. I guess I'm just wondering what made your providers actually listen. What was the thing that shifted the conversation? TL;DR: appointment next month, tired all the time, trying to show up with something useful instead of just vibes.