Nina
Member39, Surrey. Keeping notes because my brain drops every useful detail the second I see the GP.
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Thank you Yvonne, and everyone who replied. This is exactly why I posted. Reading these has made me feel much less ridiculous, and I am adding a few notes before my next appointment.
Jun 20 · Posted
The anxiety that has no story attached to it. That's the bit I can't explain to anyone. Like I'll be fine, genuinely fine, making pasta or watching something on telly, and then this wave just... arrives. No trigger I can point to. No reason. Just a low-level dread that sits in my chest for an hour and then goes again as if it was never there. I'm 39 so everyone assumes it's just life stress. And maybe it is?? But it feels different to stress. Stress has an object. This doesn't. I've been writing things down this week, sleep, mood, roughly what time the anxiety hits, whether I slept through or woke at some horrible hour. Not sure what I'm looking for exactly but I wanted to have something concrete before I go to the GP because I know I'll walk in there and blank completely and come out with nothing. She's not unkind but I don't think peri is on her radar for someone my age. I want to ask about HRT and whether it can help with sleep specifically, not just flushes, because the sleep thing is wrecking me more than anything else right now. Does anyone have experience of raising that specifically with their GP? Like did you have to push? Also I've started doing really low-effort dinners on weeknights, nothing that requires actual thought, because by 6pm my brain is basically offline and cooking something complicated just tips me into overwhelm. Small thing but it's helped. Anyway. Hi. First time posting. x
Jun 19 · Posted
The anxiety is the bit I find hardest to explain. There's no trigger. Nothing happened. I'm not worried about anything specific. It just... arrives. Usually around 3am, sometimes earlier, sometimes it's just there when I wake up like it moved in overnight and made itself at home. I'm 39 and my GP is going to ask me what I'm anxious about and I genuinely won't have an answer and I know how that sounds. I've been jotting things down this week, sleep times, when the anxiety hits, what the night felt like, just so I have something concrete to show rather than sitting there going "I feel a bit off" and leaving with a leaflet about mindfulness. One thing I want to ask about is whether HRT can help with the sleep and the anxious-for-no-reason feeling, not just the flushes. Because I don't have dramatic flushes. I have this low hum of dread and a brain that refuses to switch off after 3am. Does that count? Is that enough to have a proper conversation about it? Also I've been doing a proper dinner instead of picking at whatever the kids leave, which sounds minor but I think it's helping me feel slightly less unhinged by bedtime. Very slightly. Anyway. If anyone's managed to explain the unexplained anxiety thing to their GP in a way that was actually heard, I'd love to know how you phrased it x
Jun 14 · Posted
39 and I genuinely don't know how to describe this to a GP without sounding like I've just googled 'am I anxious' and convinced myself. It's not like there's a reason for it. Nothing bad is happening. Work is fine, kids are fine, life is fine. And yet I wake up at 3am with my heart doing something weird and this low-level dread that has absolutely no address. Like it arrived from nowhere and just... sat down in my chest. Daytime too. I'll be making pasta or watching something completely normal and suddenly feel this creeping unease. No trigger. No story attached to it. Just the feeling, on its own. I've started writing things down this week. Not properly, just notes on my phone, sleep times, when the anxiety peaks, what I ate, whether I had wine. I want to see if there's a pattern because my brain is definitely not keeping track of anything reliably right now. I'm 39 and I'm not sure peri is even on the table yet but someone in another thread mentioned that anxiety with no obvious cause was one of their first signs and I've been thinking about it ever since. If I get a GP appointment I want to ask about HRT specifically in relation to sleep and this weird anxiety. Not the hot flushes (I do have those a bit but they're not the main thing). I just don't want to go in and forget everything and come out with 'have you tried mindfulness' again. x
Jun 14 · Posted
Nina, 39. Is it just me or is the anxiety the weirdest bit of all this. Like there's no trigger. Nothing has happened. The kids are fine, work is fine, I haven't had an argument or a difficult email or anything. And then boom, 3am, heart going, this low horrible dread just sitting in my chest. I can't explain it to my partner because what do I say? "I'm anxious but about nothing"? He looks at me like I need to manage my stress better and I want to cry because that's not what this is. I know what stress feels like. This is different. It arrives from nowhere and it has a physical quality to it, almost chemical if that makes sense. I've started writing things down this week. Not formally, just notes on my phone. What time I woke up, whether the anxiety was there, how the evening had gone, whether I'd eaten properly. Trying to see if there's any pattern because my brain is so foggy I genuinely cannot hold two weeks of data in my head. I've got a GP appointment coming up and I really want to ask about HRT and sleep specifically, because the broken nights seem to be feeding the anxiety and the anxiety feeds the broken nights and I can't work out where it starts. Has anyone managed to talk to their GP about that link? Did they take it seriously or did you get the "try mindfulness" thing? Genuinely asking because I want to know what I'm walking into x
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The anxiety that has no story attached to it. That's the bit I can't explain to anyone. Like I'll be fine, genuinely fine, making pasta or watching something on telly, and then this wave just... arrives. No trigger I can point to. No reason. Just a low-level dread that sits in my chest for an hour and then goes again as if it was never there. I'm 39 so everyone assumes it's just life stress. And maybe it is?? But it feels different to stress. Stress has an object. This doesn't. I've been writing things down this week, sleep, mood, roughly what time the anxiety hits, whether I slept through or woke at some horrible hour. Not sure what I'm looking for exactly but I wanted to have something concrete before I go to the GP because I know I'll walk in there and blank completely and come out with nothing. She's not unkind but I don't think peri is on her radar for someone my age. I want to ask about HRT and whether it can help with sleep specifically, not just flushes, because the sleep thing is wrecking me more than anything else right now. Does anyone have experience of raising that specifically with their GP? Like did you have to push? Also I've started doing really low-effort dinners on weeknights, nothing that requires actual thought, because by 6pm my brain is basically offline and cooking something complicated just tips me into overwhelm. Small thing but it's helped. Anyway. Hi. First time posting. x
The anxiety is the bit I find hardest to explain. There's no trigger. Nothing happened. I'm not worried about anything specific. It just... arrives. Usually around 3am, sometimes earlier, sometimes it's just there when I wake up like it moved in overnight and made itself at home. I'm 39 and my GP is going to ask me what I'm anxious about and I genuinely won't have an answer and I know how that sounds. I've been jotting things down this week, sleep times, when the anxiety hits, what the night felt like, just so I have something concrete to show rather than sitting there going "I feel a bit off" and leaving with a leaflet about mindfulness. One thing I want to ask about is whether HRT can help with the sleep and the anxious-for-no-reason feeling, not just the flushes. Because I don't have dramatic flushes. I have this low hum of dread and a brain that refuses to switch off after 3am. Does that count? Is that enough to have a proper conversation about it? Also I've been doing a proper dinner instead of picking at whatever the kids leave, which sounds minor but I think it's helping me feel slightly less unhinged by bedtime. Very slightly. Anyway. If anyone's managed to explain the unexplained anxiety thing to their GP in a way that was actually heard, I'd love to know how you phrased it x
39 and I genuinely don't know how to describe this to a GP without sounding like I've just googled 'am I anxious' and convinced myself. It's not like there's a reason for it. Nothing bad is happening. Work is fine, kids are fine, life is fine. And yet I wake up at 3am with my heart doing something weird and this low-level dread that has absolutely no address. Like it arrived from nowhere and just... sat down in my chest. Daytime too. I'll be making pasta or watching something completely normal and suddenly feel this creeping unease. No trigger. No story attached to it. Just the feeling, on its own. I've started writing things down this week. Not properly, just notes on my phone, sleep times, when the anxiety peaks, what I ate, whether I had wine. I want to see if there's a pattern because my brain is definitely not keeping track of anything reliably right now. I'm 39 and I'm not sure peri is even on the table yet but someone in another thread mentioned that anxiety with no obvious cause was one of their first signs and I've been thinking about it ever since. If I get a GP appointment I want to ask about HRT specifically in relation to sleep and this weird anxiety. Not the hot flushes (I do have those a bit but they're not the main thing). I just don't want to go in and forget everything and come out with 'have you tried mindfulness' again. x
Nina, 39. Is it just me or is the anxiety the weirdest bit of all this. Like there's no trigger. Nothing has happened. The kids are fine, work is fine, I haven't had an argument or a difficult email or anything. And then boom, 3am, heart going, this low horrible dread just sitting in my chest. I can't explain it to my partner because what do I say? "I'm anxious but about nothing"? He looks at me like I need to manage my stress better and I want to cry because that's not what this is. I know what stress feels like. This is different. It arrives from nowhere and it has a physical quality to it, almost chemical if that makes sense. I've started writing things down this week. Not formally, just notes on my phone. What time I woke up, whether the anxiety was there, how the evening had gone, whether I'd eaten properly. Trying to see if there's any pattern because my brain is so foggy I genuinely cannot hold two weeks of data in my head. I've got a GP appointment coming up and I really want to ask about HRT and sleep specifically, because the broken nights seem to be feeding the anxiety and the anxiety feeds the broken nights and I can't work out where it starts. Has anyone managed to talk to their GP about that link? Did they take it seriously or did you get the "try mindfulness" thing? Genuinely asking because I want to know what I'm walking into x
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Thank you Yvonne, and everyone who replied. This is exactly why I posted. Reading these has made me feel much less ridiculous, and I am adding a few notes before my next appointment.