Deborah
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Jun 21 · Posted
Right. GP appointment on Thursday and I know exactly what will happen. I'll sit down, she'll ask how I'm doing, and every single thing I meant to say will vanish. Completely. Like it was never there. So I've been writing stuff down this week. Proper notes, times and everything. Woke at 2.47, woke at 3.15, woke at 4am and didn't get back off. Mood: fine in the morning, inexplicably flat by 3pm. That sort of thing. Nothing fancy, just the phone notes app. I want to ask about HRT specifically and whether it can help with sleep as much as the other stuff, because honestly the broken nights are what's breaking me, not the flushes. But I'm nervous she'll just say it's stress and send me off with a leaflet. I've been fobbed off before and I really don't have the energy to fight this time. Also quietly cutting down on wine midweek which I didn't think would do anything but actually I think I'm sleeping a bit lighter rather than crashing and then bouncing awake at 3? Hard to tell. Only been a week. Does anyone have advice on what to actually SAY in the room when you're worried about being dismissed? Like the exact words. My brain turns to mush the second I sit down in that chair. x
Jun 19 · Posted
51 and I have a GP appointment on Thursday and I am already dreading the bit where she asks me what's been going on and my mind just goes completely blank. So I've started writing things down this week. Not for anyone else, just so I can hand it over if I have to. Waking between 3 and 4am most nights, sometimes drenched, sometimes just lying there with my heart going. The anxiety that arrives for absolutely no reason by about 6am. The way I forgot my own postcode last Tuesday and stood there in Boots looking like a complete idiot. I've been tracking sleep and mood since Sunday, just a few words in my notes app each morning. I wanted to see if there was a pattern before I sat in that room and tried to explain it out loud and made it all sound much vaguer than it actually is. I also want to ask about HRT specifically, whether it can help with the sleep side of things, because that's honestly what's wrecking me most. The tiredness is manageable. The 3am waking is not. I've cut the wine back on weeknights too, partly because I read something on here, partly because I suspected it was making the night sweats worse. Two weeks in and I think it might actually be helping, though it's hard to tell yet. Has anyone gone in with written notes and had a GP take it well? I'm a bit worried about looking like I've self-diagnosed off the internet. I just cannot trust my memory in there. x
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Just popping back to say thank you, especially Sally. I read all of these with a cup of tea and had a little cry, in a good way. This community is such a relief sometimes.
Jun 15 · Posted
51 and I have got a GP appointment on Thursday and I am already panicking that I will walk in there and forget every single thing I have been struggling with for months. So I am writing it all down now, while I am tired and caffeinated and actually remember how bad it has been. The sleep is the main thing. I keep waking somewhere between 2.30 and 4am and then that is just it, I am awake, mind going ten to the dozen, heart doing a little performance. And then I have to go to work and function like a person. I have been doing a rough note each morning this week, just time I woke up, how anxious I felt, how bad the day was after. Nothing fancy, just so I have something concrete to show her rather than sitting there going "well I don't sleep great". I also want to ask about HRT properly this time. Last appointment I sort of hinted and she moved on and I let her, because I always do that. This time I have actually written it at the top of my notes: ASK ABOUT HRT AND SLEEP. In capitals so I cannot gloss over it. I have been cutting back on wine in the week as well, not because anyone told me to, just noticed it made the 3am thing much worse. Three weeks of mostly not drinking Sunday to Thursday and honestly the nights are... slightly less catastrophic? Still not good but slightly less. Anyone else had to fight a bit to get taken seriously about the sleep stuff? I don't want to go in dramatic but I also don't want to come out with nothing again x
Jun 4 · Posted
Completely off topic but does anyone have a decent slow cooker recipe that isn't just stew. Running on fumes over here x
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Right. GP appointment on Thursday and I know exactly what will happen. I'll sit down, she'll ask how I'm doing, and every single thing I meant to say will vanish. Completely. Like it was never there. So I've been writing stuff down this week. Proper notes, times and everything. Woke at 2.47, woke at 3.15, woke at 4am and didn't get back off. Mood: fine in the morning, inexplicably flat by 3pm. That sort of thing. Nothing fancy, just the phone notes app. I want to ask about HRT specifically and whether it can help with sleep as much as the other stuff, because honestly the broken nights are what's breaking me, not the flushes. But I'm nervous she'll just say it's stress and send me off with a leaflet. I've been fobbed off before and I really don't have the energy to fight this time. Also quietly cutting down on wine midweek which I didn't think would do anything but actually I think I'm sleeping a bit lighter rather than crashing and then bouncing awake at 3? Hard to tell. Only been a week. Does anyone have advice on what to actually SAY in the room when you're worried about being dismissed? Like the exact words. My brain turns to mush the second I sit down in that chair. x
51 and I have a GP appointment on Thursday and I am already dreading the bit where she asks me what's been going on and my mind just goes completely blank. So I've started writing things down this week. Not for anyone else, just so I can hand it over if I have to. Waking between 3 and 4am most nights, sometimes drenched, sometimes just lying there with my heart going. The anxiety that arrives for absolutely no reason by about 6am. The way I forgot my own postcode last Tuesday and stood there in Boots looking like a complete idiot. I've been tracking sleep and mood since Sunday, just a few words in my notes app each morning. I wanted to see if there was a pattern before I sat in that room and tried to explain it out loud and made it all sound much vaguer than it actually is. I also want to ask about HRT specifically, whether it can help with the sleep side of things, because that's honestly what's wrecking me most. The tiredness is manageable. The 3am waking is not. I've cut the wine back on weeknights too, partly because I read something on here, partly because I suspected it was making the night sweats worse. Two weeks in and I think it might actually be helping, though it's hard to tell yet. Has anyone gone in with written notes and had a GP take it well? I'm a bit worried about looking like I've self-diagnosed off the internet. I just cannot trust my memory in there. x
51 and I have got a GP appointment on Thursday and I am already panicking that I will walk in there and forget every single thing I have been struggling with for months. So I am writing it all down now, while I am tired and caffeinated and actually remember how bad it has been. The sleep is the main thing. I keep waking somewhere between 2.30 and 4am and then that is just it, I am awake, mind going ten to the dozen, heart doing a little performance. And then I have to go to work and function like a person. I have been doing a rough note each morning this week, just time I woke up, how anxious I felt, how bad the day was after. Nothing fancy, just so I have something concrete to show her rather than sitting there going "well I don't sleep great". I also want to ask about HRT properly this time. Last appointment I sort of hinted and she moved on and I let her, because I always do that. This time I have actually written it at the top of my notes: ASK ABOUT HRT AND SLEEP. In capitals so I cannot gloss over it. I have been cutting back on wine in the week as well, not because anyone told me to, just noticed it made the 3am thing much worse. Three weeks of mostly not drinking Sunday to Thursday and honestly the nights are... slightly less catastrophic? Still not good but slightly less. Anyone else had to fight a bit to get taken seriously about the sleep stuff? I don't want to go in dramatic but I also don't want to come out with nothing again x
Completely off topic but does anyone have a decent slow cooker recipe that isn't just stew. Running on fumes over here x
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Just popping back to say thank you, especially Sally. I read all of these with a cup of tea and had a little cry, in a good way. This community is such a relief sometimes.