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Jun 16 · Posted
Is it just me or has Sunday evening become its own specific kind of awful. It's not that anything happens. The kids are doing their thing, the week ahead is fine on paper, nothing is actually wrong. But around 5pm there's this low hum of anxiety that I genuinely cannot explain. It used to be just Sunday-before-a-big-week dread. Now it shows up every week, big or small. I've started writing it down because I want to see if it's connected to sleep or where I am in my cycle or just... life. Honestly not sure yet. Partner thinks I'm overthinking it, which is helpful 🙄 Anyone else get this? Just want to know I'm not inventing it. x
Jun 15 · Replied
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Thank you Yvonne, and everyone who replied. This is exactly why I posted. Reading these has made me feel much less ridiculous, and I am adding a few notes before my next appointment.
Jun 14 · Posted
I've been meaning to post this for a while because I found it genuinely useful and I know a few people here have mentioned dreading GP appointments and then coming out feeling like they didn't say half of what they meant to. I had an appointment last month and for the first time I actually went in with a written list. Not a long one. Just a note on my phone with the date things started and roughly how often they were happening. I'd been tracking for about ten days beforehand, just a quick note each morning about how I'd slept and whether the anxiety had been bad the night before. What I noticed when I wrote it all out was that the symptoms were more connected than I'd realised. The nights I woke at 3am were often the nights I'd had a glass of wine with dinner. The anxious mornings were almost always after a bad night. I hadn't seen that pattern until I looked at it all in one place. The things I ended up writing down for the appointment: - sleep (when I wake, how long I'm awake, whether I feel hot) - anxiety (morning, evening, or both, and whether there's a reason or not) - brain fog moments at work, specifically the word-finding thing which I'd been too embarrassed to mention - cycle changes, because mine have been all over the place - how long this has been going on, roughly I didn't go in demanding anything. I just said I'd been tracking and showed her the notes. It felt so different to my usual performance of 'I'm fine, just a bit tired'. She actually listened. We talked about whether this could be perimenopause and what the options were. I'm not saying it'll go like that for everyone, genuinely, every GP is different and I know some people have had a much harder time. But having the notes meant I didn't forget the brain fog bit, which I definitely would have done. Just sharing in case it's useful. The evening walks I've been trying have also helped a bit with the winding-down thing but that's a whole other post 😊 x
Jun 7 · Replied
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Just popping back to say thank you, especially Alison. I read all of these with a cup of tea and had a little cry, in a good way. This community is such a relief sometimes.
Jun 7 · Replied
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Just popping back to say thank you, especially Alison. I read all of these with a cup of tea and had a little cry, in a good way. This community is such a relief sometimes.
Jun 7 · Posted
So I've got a GP appointment in ten days and I've decided to actually track things properly beforehand so I don't walk in and go completely blank. This week I'm writing down when I wake in the night and roughly what time, whether there's a flush or just that wide awake anxious feeling, and what I ate and drank the evening before. I've also been trying to get out for a walk after dinner instead of sitting with a glass of wine, partly because I read something on here about it and thought, well, I'll see. Not calling it a plan. Just logging it so I have something real to say in the room instead of "I'm not sleeping well" and then forgetting everything specific the moment I sit down. x
Jun 7 · Posted
Right, bit of a rant coming and also I think I just need to say this somewhere before tomorrow. I have a GP appointment in the morning and I am genuinely anxious about it. Not the appointment itself, just the bit where I try to explain what's been happening and it comes out all wrong. Last time I went I left feeling like I'd described a slightly tired woman who needed to drink more water. That's not what I went in to say. So this time I've been writing things down. Properly. Not just "sleep bad, feel weird" but actual dates and times. The 3am wake-ups. The heart-racing-for-no-reason that happens around then. The hot flushes that aren't dramatic but are just... there, at night, enough to make me kick the duvet off and then lie there freezing and wired. I've been noting it for about ten days and looking at it written down it's actually a lot more than I'd been letting myself admit. I'm 46. My periods have been irregular for about eight months. My mum went through the change early too, I've only just thought to mention that tomorrow. The thing I'm most nervous about is the anxiety piece. Because it doesn't have a reason. It just arrives. Usually around 3am but sometimes in the afternoon too, this low-level dread that I can't attach to anything. I know how that sounds. I know it sounds like stress. I work full time, I have teenagers, of course I'm stressed. But this feels different and I don't know how to explain different. I'm going to try the evening walk thing again tonight. I did it twice last week and both nights were slightly better. Might be nothing. Might be coincidence. I'm writing it down anyway. Wish me luck tomorrow x
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Is it just me or has Sunday evening become its own specific kind of awful. It's not that anything happens. The kids are doing their thing, the week ahead is fine on paper, nothing is actually wrong. But around 5pm there's this low hum of anxiety that I genuinely cannot explain. It used to be just Sunday-before-a-big-week dread. Now it shows up every week, big or small. I've started writing it down because I want to see if it's connected to sleep or where I am in my cycle or just... life. Honestly not sure yet. Partner thinks I'm overthinking it, which is helpful 🙄 Anyone else get this? Just want to know I'm not inventing it. x
I've been meaning to post this for a while because I found it genuinely useful and I know a few people here have mentioned dreading GP appointments and then coming out feeling like they didn't say half of what they meant to. I had an appointment last month and for the first time I actually went in with a written list. Not a long one. Just a note on my phone with the date things started and roughly how often they were happening. I'd been tracking for about ten days beforehand, just a quick note each morning about how I'd slept and whether the anxiety had been bad the night before. What I noticed when I wrote it all out was that the symptoms were more connected than I'd realised. The nights I woke at 3am were often the nights I'd had a glass of wine with dinner. The anxious mornings were almost always after a bad night. I hadn't seen that pattern until I looked at it all in one place. The things I ended up writing down for the appointment: - sleep (when I wake, how long I'm awake, whether I feel hot) - anxiety (morning, evening, or both, and whether there's a reason or not) - brain fog moments at work, specifically the word-finding thing which I'd been too embarrassed to mention - cycle changes, because mine have been all over the place - how long this has been going on, roughly I didn't go in demanding anything. I just said I'd been tracking and showed her the notes. It felt so different to my usual performance of 'I'm fine, just a bit tired'. She actually listened. We talked about whether this could be perimenopause and what the options were. I'm not saying it'll go like that for everyone, genuinely, every GP is different and I know some people have had a much harder time. But having the notes meant I didn't forget the brain fog bit, which I definitely would have done. Just sharing in case it's useful. The evening walks I've been trying have also helped a bit with the winding-down thing but that's a whole other post 😊 x
So I've got a GP appointment in ten days and I've decided to actually track things properly beforehand so I don't walk in and go completely blank. This week I'm writing down when I wake in the night and roughly what time, whether there's a flush or just that wide awake anxious feeling, and what I ate and drank the evening before. I've also been trying to get out for a walk after dinner instead of sitting with a glass of wine, partly because I read something on here about it and thought, well, I'll see. Not calling it a plan. Just logging it so I have something real to say in the room instead of "I'm not sleeping well" and then forgetting everything specific the moment I sit down. x
Right, bit of a rant coming and also I think I just need to say this somewhere before tomorrow. I have a GP appointment in the morning and I am genuinely anxious about it. Not the appointment itself, just the bit where I try to explain what's been happening and it comes out all wrong. Last time I went I left feeling like I'd described a slightly tired woman who needed to drink more water. That's not what I went in to say. So this time I've been writing things down. Properly. Not just "sleep bad, feel weird" but actual dates and times. The 3am wake-ups. The heart-racing-for-no-reason that happens around then. The hot flushes that aren't dramatic but are just... there, at night, enough to make me kick the duvet off and then lie there freezing and wired. I've been noting it for about ten days and looking at it written down it's actually a lot more than I'd been letting myself admit. I'm 46. My periods have been irregular for about eight months. My mum went through the change early too, I've only just thought to mention that tomorrow. The thing I'm most nervous about is the anxiety piece. Because it doesn't have a reason. It just arrives. Usually around 3am but sometimes in the afternoon too, this low-level dread that I can't attach to anything. I know how that sounds. I know it sounds like stress. I work full time, I have teenagers, of course I'm stressed. But this feels different and I don't know how to explain different. I'm going to try the evening walk thing again tonight. I did it twice last week and both nights were slightly better. Might be nothing. Might be coincidence. I'm writing it down anyway. Wish me luck tomorrow x
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Jun 15 · Replied to Community post
Thank you Yvonne, and everyone who replied. This is exactly why I posted. Reading these has made me feel much less ridiculous, and I am adding a few notes before my next appointment.
Jun 7 · Replied to Community post
Just popping back to say thank you, especially Alison. I read all of these with a cup of tea and had a little cry, in a good way. This community is such a relief sometimes.
Jun 7 · Replied to Community post
Just popping back to say thank you, especially Alison. I read all of these with a cup of tea and had a little cry, in a good way. This community is such a relief sometimes.
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Thank you Yvonne, and everyone who replied. This is exactly why I posted. Reading these has made me feel much less ridiculous, and I am adding a few notes before my next appointment.
Just popping back to say thank you, especially Alison. I read all of these with a cup of tea and had a little cry, in a good way. This community is such a relief sometimes.
Just popping back to say thank you, especially Alison. I read all of these with a cup of tea and had a little cry, in a good way. This community is such a relief sometimes.