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In the moment

Put an actual date in the diary

Message a friend and book a real date and time, not a someday plan

5 min

How to do it

Message a friend now and agree on an actual date and time to meet, even a short coffee. Put it in the diary before the conversation ends, not as a we should catch up.

What the evidence says

The loneliness research is specific that contact alone, texting or vague plans, showed limited effect in large trial reviews, while real social contact that actually takes place did better. A booked date and time is a small way to turn intention into something that happens.

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