Sleep
For the nights that break up, and the mornings that follow them.
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Why can't I sleep? What perimenopause does to your nights
Sleep often breaks in the years before menopause, and there are physical reasons why. What changes, what the research says, and what women commonly try.
Waking at 3am: why it happens in perimenopause and what helps
Falling asleep fine, then wide awake at 3am with a racing mind. The physiology behind the small-hours waking, and what women commonly change to soften it.
Magnesium and sleep in perimenopause: what the evidence actually says
Magnesium is the supplement women hear about most for midlife sleep. What the research supports, what it doesn't, and how to read a label without being sold to.
Questions to ask your doctor about sleep and perimenopause
Broken sleep deserves a proper appointment. The questions worth asking your doctor, how to describe the problem so it lands, and a free tool that preps the whole conversation.
What to do about it
Wind down
A ten-minute wind-down that ends the day
A short, repeatable sequence that tells your body the day is finished.
10 min · Narrated
In the night
When you wake at 3am
What tends to help when you are awake in the middle of the night and cannot get back down.
4 min · Narrated
Practical
Keeping the night cooler
The practical changes women most often say made night sweats more manageable.
3 min · Narrated
Understand
Caffeine, alcohol and midlife sleep
Why the wine that used to help you drop off may now be part of why you wake.
4 min · NHS
Understand
Morning light, evening dark
The simplest lever on the body clock, and the one most often skipped.
3 min · Narrated
Practice
A body scan for a racing mind
Ten quiet minutes that give a busy head something undemanding to hold onto.
10 min · Narrated
What to try
Eat for it
Evening meals that carry you through to morning
Move for it
Daylight and regular movement are two of the kindest things you can do for your nights
Take the edge off
For the racing head that fills the small hours
4 7 8 breathing before you argue with the moment
In for four, hold for seven, out for eight, four rounds
Turn the clock face away
Turn your bedside clock or phone screen away from the bed tonight
Phone charges outside the bedroom tonight
Leave your phone charging in another room overnight, use an alarm clock instead
What works
What works for sleep
Every approach women ask us about, with what the research actually shows. No hype, no hard no.
Take it to your doctor
Doctor Prep
It turns what you have been living with into a dated sheet your doctor can act on.
Sleep is where memory consolidates and mood resets. It compounds further than almost anything else here.
Later in the journey
Reading this at 58 rather than 44? The night sweats and the hormone swings usually settle after menopause, and sleep steadies with them. What tends to remain is the habits the broken years taught, and those respond well to the same CBT-I approach described here. Sleep apnea risk also rises after menopause, so loud snoring or gasping is worth an appointment at any age.
Where this comes from
Practical guidance written for Narrated, with background drawn from published sleep and menopause information.
Something new most weeks. Sources: NHS, The Menopause Society, Written for Narrated.
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