11 Jun
49 and I genuinely don't know how to start this conversation with my husband. We've been married twenty-two years. Twenty-two years. And I cannot find the words to explain that sex has become uncomfortable in a way I don't fully understand myself yet. It's not that I don't want to be close to him. It's more that something changed without asking my permission and now I'm sort of bracing for it before it's even happened, which probably doesn't help anything. He's not the problem. He's lovely actually. That almost makes it harder to say out loud. I've been writing a few things down before my GP appointment next week because I know I'll go blank the second I sit down. Dryness, discomfort, that sort of low-level UTI feeling that comes and goes. And the libido thing, which feels like the most embarrassing one to put on paper even though I know it shouldn't. I keep crossing it out and rewriting it. Has anyone here actually managed to bring this up with their partner in a way that felt okay? And did anyone find their GP took it seriously first time? I'm half expecting to be told it's just part of getting older and to get on with it. x