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Why am I this tired?
Exhaustion is the most commonly reported change of this stage, and the least talked about. What sits behind it.
6 minSource: Narrated
It is more common than the symptom you were told to expect
In a survey of more than 12,000 women run through the Flo app and reported by The Menopause Society, 83 percent described fatigue and 83 percent described physical and mental exhaustion.
Hot flashes, the symptom most women name when asked what menopause is, were reported by fewer women than that.
So if you arrived here expecting to be told about flashes and what you actually have is an exhaustion you cannot explain, you are in the majority, not the margins.
The three things usually stacked together
Broken sleep. Even nights that look long on paper get lighter and more fragmented in these years, so the same eight hours restore less than they used to.
Hormonal change itself. Estrogen and progesterone influence energy regulation directly, and the unpredictability is part of why some weeks feel fine and others do not.
Everything else in a midlife decade. Aging parents, teenagers, the heaviest years of a career. Any one of those is tiring; hormonal change lowers the floor they land on.
Why it is worth taking seriously rather than pushing through
Exhaustion has causes that have nothing to do with hormones, and several of them are straightforward to check and treat. Low iron, an underactive thyroid, low vitamin D and low B12 all produce tiredness that looks identical from the inside.
That is the argument for an appointment rather than an early night. There is a piece in this section on what tends to get checked, and a free tool at the end that makes the conversation shorter.
Energy is the thing every other change in these years is paid for out of. Protecting it is what makes the rest possible.
General information, not medical advice. Narrated never diagnoses.
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