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this is hard to write as no words come to mind, but that is exactly what brain fog is, total blankness wondering why your brain doesn't work and when it does work efficiently stops dead int its tracks when in the middle of something that needs thinking about. Does this brain fog ever clear or get better for anyone
Fatigue, brain fog, weight gain, hair loss, mood changes — my GP said it was perimenopause. Turns out my TSH was 6.8 (subclinical hypothyroid). Started levothyroxine and within 6 weeks the fatigue lifted dramatically. I'm sharing this because the symptom overlap between thyroid dysfunction and perimenopause is huge. If you're not feeling better on HRT, or something doesn't feel right, push for full thyroid testing (not just TSH — get free T3 and T4 too).
From first symptom (15) to diagnosis (23) — 8 years of being told my pain was 'normal period cramps.' Spoiler: passing out from pain is not normal. After laparoscopic surgery confirmed stage 3 endo, I tried various hormonal treatments. What's working for me now: continuous combined pill (no breaks, no bleeds), regular pelvic physio, anti-inflammatory diet (reducing gluten and dairy specifically), and stress management. Not pain-free but functional. If your pain is disrupting your life, please push for investigation.
I had no idea I should be thinking about bone density. No symptoms, felt fine. My new GP suggested a DEXA scan because I'm slim, post-menopausal, and have a family history. T-score came back at -1.7 in my hip. Now I'm doing weight-bearing exercise, taking calcium and vitamin D, and my doctor is discussing whether HRT would be appropriate given the bone protection benefits. If you're post-menopausal and haven't had a DEXA scan, please ask your doctor about it.
I expected hot flashes. I expected night sweats. Nobody told me about the RAGE. I snapped at my kids yesterday for leaving a cup on the counter and I could hear myself being unreasonable but couldn't stop. Then I cried for twenty minutes. Then I was fine. This rollercoaster is exhausting. Started progesterone last week — really hoping it helps even things out. My family is being incredibly patient but I feel terrible.
I'm a lawyer. I've prided myself on my memory and ability to construct arguments. At 46, I started losing words mid-sentence. Forgetting client names. Walking into rooms and forgetting why I was there. I genuinely went to my GP terrified it was early dementia. She tested my hormones and said 'welcome to perimenopause.' The relief was enormous but also — nobody warns you about this. I'm now on HRT and the fog has lifted significantly, though I'm not quite back to where I was.
After trying sage tea, black cohosh, evening primrose oil, and a cooling pillow (all of which did basically nothing for me), my menopause specialist suggested a very low dose of venlafaxine. I was nervous about an antidepressant but she explained it works on the thermoregulatory centre at low doses. It's reduced my hot flashes from 8-10 a day to maybe 2-3. Still not zero but I can function again. Wanted to share in case anyone else is struggling and HRT isn't an option for them.
Nobody wants to say it so I will: I went from a healthy sex drive to absolutely nothing overnight. Not 'reduced' — gone. Like a switch was flipped. It affected my relationship, my self-image, my confidence. My menopause specialist tested my testosterone — it was undetectable. I've been on testosterone cream (compound pharmacy, UK) for 4 months and it's made a real difference. Not back to 25-year-old levels but I feel like a sexual person again. I wish we talked about this more.
I fall asleep fine. Then at 3am — boom, wide awake. Heart racing sometimes. Mind going at a thousand miles an hour. I lie there for 2 hours then fall asleep at 5am, alarm goes off at 6. I'm exhausted. I've tried everything — no screens, cool room, magnesium, meditation apps. The only thing that's helped slightly is progesterone (vaginal, prescribed) which my doctor said might help because of the calming effect on GABA receptors. Still waking up but falling back to sleep faster.
I was on oral conjugated oestrogen for a year and felt awful — headaches, nausea, weight gain, anxiety. Almost gave up on HRT entirely. My new consultant switched me to transdermal oestradiol (gel) and micronised progesterone and it was transformative. Same hormone, different delivery method, completely different experience. If you're struggling with your current HRT, don't give up — ask about different formulations and routes. It took me three adjustments to find what works.
I developed IBS symptoms at 44 — bloating, constipation, food sensitivities I'd never had before. Saw a gastroenterologist, did all the tests, everything came back clear. It was my menopause specialist who connected the dots: declining oestrogen affects gut motility and the microbiome. I've been taking a multi-strain probiotic and eating more fermented foods, and the bloating has improved dramatically. The constipation improved further when I started HRT. Our bodies are so interconnected.
It's not just the physical symptoms. It's feeling invisible. It's your partner not understanding why you're different. It's colleagues not knowing why you need a fan at your desk. It's friends who haven't hit it yet looking at you like you're being dramatic. I started journalling and honestly it helps more than I expected. Just writing it down makes me feel less alone. This platform helps too — knowing other women are going through the same thing.
I was sceptical about HRT honestly. Read too many scary articles. But by month 3 the brain fog started lifting and by month 6 I genuinely feel like a different person. Not a miracle cure — I still get tired and my joints ache — but I can think clearly, I sleep through the night, and I don't want to cry at random adverts anymore. If you're on the fence and your doctor supports it, it might be worth trying.
I've been the same weight for 15 years. Eat well, walk every day, swim twice a week. In the last 8 months I've gained a stone — all around my middle. My clothes don't fit. I haven't changed anything about my diet or exercise. My GP said 'it's just your age' which wasn't helpful. I've since learned about how oestrogen decline affects fat distribution and insulin sensitivity. Started strength training 3x/week and noticing some improvement in how my clothes fit even if the scale hasn't moved much.
I'm 58 and two years past my last period. Thought the symptoms would stop but I'm still getting hot flashes (less frequent but still there) and my sleep is rubbish. Nobody tells you it can go on this long. Currently trying magnesium glycinate before bed and it seems to help a bit with the sleep quality. Anyone else dealing with symptoms years after their last period?
I was hesitant about medication but my A1C was creeping up. Started metformin 500mg and added myo-inositol 2000mg/d-chiro-inositol 50mg. After about 3 months my cycles regulated to 32-35 days (from 60-90+), the cystic acne on my jaw cleared up, and I lost the 15lbs I'd gained around my middle. Not saying this works for everyone — PCOS is so individual — but these two together were a game changer for me.
Went to the doctor because my periods stopped for 4 months. Ultrasound showed polycystic ovaries. Now I'm reading about insulin resistance, fertility issues, weight gain, hair loss — it feels like my body is broken. I know that's not rational but that's how it feels right now. Has anyone been diagnosed in their late 20s? What helped you most in those early days?
Clumps in the shower. Widening part line. Having to hoover the bathroom floor daily. GP checked thyroid and iron — both normal. Said it's 'just hormonal.' I've started taking iron and vitamin D anyway (slightly low end of normal), using rosemary oil on my scalp, and being very gentle with my hair (no heat, no tight styles). It's too early to know if it's helping but I need to feel like I'm doing something. Has anyone experienced hair regrowth after starting HRT?
GP did bloods, said my FSH is 'normal' so it can't be perimenopause. But I've been having night sweats, rage episodes, and my periods went from 28 days like clockwork to anywhere between 19-45 days. I know something's changed. Has anyone else been dismissed like this? How did you find a doctor who actually listened?